A concept perpetuated by magazines and reduced down to 'stuff' you need to do for yourself in order to 'tick' all the self-care boxes...
Honestly, I'm not a fan!
Radical self-care on the other hand, practically makes me swoon as though Simon from Bridgerton has just winked at me ;-)
But when magazines talk about 'self-care', it often revolves around long baths in expensive chemicals, massages, and guilt-ridden restrictive diet plans that you need to follow to the letter.
However, for me, it's more than that!
It's more than pampering, sleep, healthy food, trips to the beauty salon, or even your regular yoga classes (though I totally adore all of these too)
Let's face it, if self-care was this simple, you could just follow a plan written for you by somebody else and have done with it.
And yet most of us struggle to find the time or make the commitment to looking after ourselves... WHY?
I believe it's time to get RADICAL about self-care and be honest about what self-care really is...
AND WHY it's so difficult for many of us!
For me, radical self-care is about committing to the deepest form of nourishment available to you!
It's a feeling that you're enough, and loving yourself enough, to give your needs center stage.
I'm sure you've met someone who spends a fortune on pampering, diets, looks gorgeous... and still isn't happy!
That's the thing with 'self-care'... it doesn't necessarily lead to happiness or contentment.
Radical self-care, on the other hand, does!
And it can be achieved regardless of how much time or money you have at your disposal.
It may take the courage to do things a bit differently... Well, it's not called 'Radical' for nothing ;)
To free you from habits you've just fallen into and help you question your status quo!
'What are you not saying 'YES!' to because you are spreading yourself too thin in other areas?'
When you commit to radical self-care, it's a work in progress.
It grows, adapts, and develops as you do.
So it's unlikely that any prescriptive plan or regime is going to suit you forever!
Radical self-care is bound to look very different, (and have different challenges) for a new mum than say for a single man or woman...
Radical self-care for an introvert might involve staying in and reading a book... for an extrovert, it might mean a wild crazy night out...
At one time in your life, it might mean cutting out foods that irritate your gut... while on another occasion it may cause you to jack in your job, take a sabbatical, leave a dodgy relationship, book a weekend of pampering, or spend a day walking in the hills.
But whoever you are, and whatever your life situation, I can almost certainly guarantee that you'll benefit from a good dose of Radical Self-Care!
Anna, isn't this selfish?
I smile and say:
Yes, it is!
But why are we taught that being selfish is bad?
Surely, it’s more selfish to burn out so you can't function properly?
Or to become so tired, stressed and joyless that those close to you only get to see an anxious, exhausted, or snappy version of you?
So unless you have narcissistic or psychopathic personality traits, I'm pretty sure that you could probably do with a little bit more 'selfishness' in your life.
Initially, it can feel strange, or even wrong, to do things purely for yourself; but why?
Why are we expected to put everyone's needs before our own, especially as parents, caregivers, or empaths?
If you think you don't have enough time to look after yourself, then I'd to ask you some questions:
Knowing what you're willing (or not willing) to accept takes practice and courage.
However, once you recognize and embrace your needs, you'll no longer have to look to others for approval
You'll no longer feel needy, anxious or selfish if you put your own needs first.
You'll love and adore yourself so much that you'll have abundant love to share.
It'll naturally spill over, and you'll find it easy to be loving and giving when appropriate.
You won't feel drained because you are no longer giving from a place of lack!
So I want to challenge you to become conscious of your feelings around radical self-care:
Then start to question whether these are 'real' feelings and objections... or just the reactions that you're used to?
It'll probably take a bit of practice (it took A LOT of practice for me ;-) )
But slowly and surely thing will begin to change...
Welcome to feeling better than you’ve ever felt before...
Welcome to more Bliss, Joy, Serenity, Energy, and Choice...
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