Self love is making a comeback for 2016. More than ever, we are realizing how it is critical for healthy self esteem, emotional well being and happy relationships. There are many ways to practice, each being unique to different people, but I believe that whatever your practice, you need to include self pleasuring as part of this.
I’m a sexologist. My training has drummed into me the importance of self pleasuring as the foundation to pelvic health, emotional wellbeing and awesome partnered sex. Self pleasuring has been a key part of my own personal well being routine for years, has helped me heal my own emotional wounds, and made me feel more confidant in my body.
When we are looking for love outside of us, and wanting a partner to make us feel whole, self pleasuring is the best gift you can give to yourself. Think about it, what better way can you show love to yourself by literally making love to yourself?
It’s tough, because as women, we are socialized not to be sexual. Even if we didn’t grow up in overly conservative or religious households, there is still a huge sex negative message that is given to girls when they grow up, and it sucks.
‘Don’t be a slut’, ‘Good girls don’t dress like that’.
Masturbating, or self pleasuring for women has been seen as a taboo for a long time. The statistics are uncertain, but in one poll in 2009, 28.5 % of women aged 25-29, 37.7% aged 30-39 and 25% aged 40-49% had not masturbated in the past year. These days with sex toys more easily available than ever, it’s becoming more acceptable but still, many women are nervous to try, or to make it a regular part of their routine.
If you need any more convincing, these are 5 reasons why I believe you MUST include self pleasuring as part of your self love and wellness routine:
If you are new to self pleasuring, or just want some tips to make it even more fun, these my suggestions:
Lucy Rowett is a holistic sex coach, empath, writer and intuitive. Her mission is to empower you to live your juiciest life possible. She is the author of, 'Get Sexy! A Juicy Girl's Guide to Reclaiming Your Natural Sensuality', and is passionate about comprehensive and positive sex education. She writes about everything sex, spirit and transformation. She lives on the south coast of England, and can often be found drinking tea and reading.
Morgan found yoga 15 years ago as a way to recover from anorexia. It has carried her through her PhD, raising twin girls and in a move towards her passion she chose to pursue full time yoga teaching in 2012. Since then she has led several yoga retreats, co-owned a yoga studio (Yoga-on-Tay) and helped to develop a 'yoga for amputees' program along with Finding Your Feet (FYF) Charity. When she is not yoga-ing, or parenting Morgan competes for Scotland in ultra distance running and cross country. Morgan believes that yoga is for everyone.